Why You Don't need a Coach (But 3 Reasons You Might Want One)

I met up with a friend for coffee this week, and we got to talking about coaching.

He had worked with a coach before and described the experience as life-changing.  Ah, music to a coach’s ears!  I wish I could have bottled up what he was saying and kept it in my pocket for those times when I’m talking to someone about coaching, and they just don’t get it.

Why is coaching so hard to explain and “sell”?

Well, one reason is that coaching isn’t a necessity.  Nobody needs a coach.  Without a coach, your life will continue down a path that you create through the choices you make.

But what if you haven’t yet achieved that big goal you set for yourself?  Or, maybe you feel stuck and unable to make a change that you really want to see in your life.

Sound familiar?

You don’t need a coach, but here are 3 reasons you might want to get one:

1. Your current ways aren’t working for you anymore

You’ve already seen some real success in your life, so you might be thinking, “well I’ve gotten this far without a coach, why do I need one now?”  I thought the same thing when I was 27 and the Executive Director of a non-profit organization.  I thought, my hard work and determination has gotten me this far, and if I keep my nose to the grindstone, then I’ll get all the success and fulfillment that I want in my life.  As it turns out, I couldn’t have been more wrong…

My drive, determination, and high standards were great assets for getting my organization off the ground, but they were crippling me as a leader.  My work relationships didn’t need more of my achiever ways, they needed more trust, support, and collaboration.  So, I went to a leadership development program, took a good, hard look at what behaviors were no longer serving me, and committed to making some big changes in the way I lead.  And then got a coach.

Can you identify some beliefs and habits that got you to where you are now, but are holding you back from what’s next?  You know what they say – “what got you here won’t get you there.”  A coach will help you to identify what behaviors you want to change, create the vision for your new future, and hold you accountable for taking action in the direction of your goals.

2. You’re sick of putting your dreams on hold

What have you always dreamed for your life?  Starting your own business?   Making a real difference in people’s lives through meaningful and impactful work?  Living on a beautiful island or in a romantic European city?

Whatever your dream may be, why is it still hanging out on the back burner?

I know, I know, you have a million reasons why … You can’t take the financial risk, too many people rely on you to be steady and reliable, you’re just not the type of person to do that.  It’s a nice dream to have, but there’s no way you can make it a reality.

Well why the heck not??  To quote one of my favorite poems from Mary Oliver:

Doesn’t everything die at last, and too soon?
Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?

If you’re sick of putting your dream on hold, then consider working with a coach to help you make your dream a reality.  A coach will work with you to make your dream so bright and vivid that you won’t be able to imagine life without it.  And then you’ll get to work, translating your dream into a plan, and taking it step-by-step to make your dream your reality.

3. You want to gain a competitive advantage

If so far you’re not compelled (maybe reasons 1 and 2 sound a little frou frou for you?), don’t fret, I’ve got one for you:

Coaching gives you a competitive advantage.

Studies have shown that coaching produces real, tangible results and improves leadership and business performance.  Coached employees demonstrate improved productivity, better business and time management, and enhanced team effectiveness.  Fortune Magazine reports that a recent study shows that training alone improves leadership skills by 22%, and when combined with Executive Coaching improvement jumps to 77%.

If you want to get down to business and take your individual, team, and organizational performance to the next level, then let coaching be your secret weapon.  Get a coach and get ahead – before your peers get there first.

NOW, I’d love to hear from you!

Jump down to the comments section and tell us … Have you worked with a coach before, and how did it change your life?  And if you haven’t worked with a coach, what’s holding you back?  Thanks, as always, for your contribution!